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Fake It Until You Become It

A friend recently sent me this video, and I think it contains a very powerful message.

In the past couple of years I have applied to business school, started my own company, and have networked in the Boston startup community. In each of these endeavors, it has become obvious to me that you must go out into the world and aggressively pursue your goal. It’s not about faking it until you make it, it’s about faking it until you become it. I’m not advocating lying or anything nefarious, but everyone starts out as a beginner in their road to achieving their goals. If you are humble, honest, and passionate, you’ll become the person you want to be.

How I met top mentors at the Boston unConference

I attended the Boston unConference for the first time last week at the Hynes Convention Center.  I had heard great things from friends about how it was different from other conferences, but was curious to see it for myself.  I can’t stress this enough: the level of accessibility was unlike any other event I’ve been to.  I was really impressed with the quality of the sessions, how approachable people were, and how well executed the whole event was.

Maybe I’m just horrible at attending events, but I usually struggle to introduce myself to mentors.  I usually only see them speaking on stage, or if they’re not up on stage, they’re being swamped by throngs of people before/after their panel or speech.  You’re nuts if you think you’ll be able to stand out from a crowd lined up to ask a question.  How are you supposed to make a good impression when dealing with this:

Mark Cuban and Eisner at SXSW

Good luck asking Mark Cuban a question

I got pretty lucky.  Here’s the list of people I got 1:1 time with:

  • Bill Warner
  • Bob Mason
  • Jeff Bussgang
  • Laura Fitton
  • David Beisel
  • Jeff Kaplan

I got pretty lucky, in that my ticket was sponsored by North Bridge (thanks you!), so I paid a fraction of the $250 ticket price.  Because I was sponsored, I was able to sign up for individual sessions with many of the people above.  I was able to catch others in between meetings and talk with them for 15-20 minutes about what I’m working on.  I think the main difference between this event and my other experiences is that these people weren’t overwhelmed by crowds of people clamoring for their attention.  For next year’s conference, I would definitely recommend applying to be a sponsored entrepreneur, or volunteering as a connector.

Will I attend next year?  You bet.  While I was able to speak with many people I had been trying to meet for awhile, there were many others that I didn’t get to because I ran out of time.  Who else was there?  Check out this report about the unConference mentor attendees to see who was there.

I didn’t even touch on the sessions held during the day.  I think the unConference is a great format – the speakers have to “pitch” their idea to the whole conference in the hopes of drawing attendees.  This way, the speaker has to have an idea for what they’d like to discuss and are incentivized to have a productive session.  I’d love to see this format at more of the conferences I attend.

Amazing Lessons in Leadership

Today was an incredible day at Yale SOM.  One of the classes I’m taking is Managing Global Catastrophes, taught by Jeffrey Garten.  We’re studying lessons of leadership from extremely difficult crises like The Asian Tsunami, AIDS, the famine in Somalia, SARS, 9/11, and Fukushima (to name a few).

Today we had the pleasure of meeting with:

It was amazing to hear from them about their experiences inspiring those around them.  From trying to end famine in Somalia, the tough decisions about capping the BP Oil Spill, and changing the culture in the army around PTSD, it was an incredible lesson in how to inspire and lead large organizations through some of their toughest days.

It was one of those days where I stop and think about how lucky I am to be a part of Yale SOM.

When are you at your best?

Even before I had started at business school, I received an email outlining an assignment that was to be completed in the first weeks of school.  It involved a lot of coordination and work to complete, yet helped me learn about when I perform at my best.  The course was Careers, taught by Amy Wrzesniewski, which helped students think about their careers and their professional goals.

I had to solicit feedback about when I was at my best from 10 people who were close to me and could give me very direct feedback.  It was purposefully different from the typical corporate feedback that I was used to working at PwC and Microsoft which focused on areas for improvement.  By canvassing your network to look at where you were at your best, the goal was to focus on those areas and put energy into them.  Instead of the typical “Dan did a great job and should look to improve by doing X, Y, and Z”, it was refreshing to hear how others perceived my accomplishments and saw how I added value to a team.  While we didn’t focus on the question of which feedback is best, I thought it raised an interesting question: should you focus on improving in areas in which you’re weak, or seek out opportunities that align nicely with your personal strengths.  While that’s still a question that’s up for debate, it was an incredibly helpful exercise and reading people’s feedback helped me hone in on opportunities where I could add value to a team.

One part of the course was to reach out and interview successful people in a field you’re interested in to learn about what they did that made them successful.  I picked someone I had no connection to – Rob Go – and I was surprised how easily it was to connect with him and how readily he shared his experiences with me.  Rob is a venture capitalist in Boston and I wanted to hear about how he decided he wanted to pursue venture capital.  It was very valuable to hear where I added value in the first assignment, and then speak with successful people in a field I was interested in.

The two assignments were very helpful for me because I was able to recognize and spot opportunities I would enjoy and professionally thrive, and also hear from someone very successful how they made it to their current position and how they perceived their journey.  Before reaching out to others to hear about their experiences, I think it’s incredibly valuable to understand what you’re looking for and where you can add the most value.

Sliding out of control

This post was originally written for the SOM community blog, located here.

When I first arrived on campus, I had a lot of items on my to-do list: refine my resume, network with students at SOM and in the larger Yale community, and try the best pizza slices from around New Haven. One thing I couldn’t wait for was to be sliding completely out of control.

I signed up for the Yale Hockey Club and it has been one of the best decisions so far in my SOM career (including the part where I slide across the ice).  Here’s the quick summary: students of all ability levels get together each week to work on our skating and puck handling, and then scrimmage across comparable ability levels.  After my first two practices, I can vouch for the fact that anybody is allowed to play, and that it’s a blast.

Some of my classmates played hockey in college and lead the instructional sessions on stopping, skating backwards, and puck handling.  Other friends have never skated before, and are good natured about falling over and their inability to stop.  I’m still getting my skating legs underneath me, and every once in a while find myself flying towards the boards, wondering if I’ll be able to stop.  When I’m not able to stop, it isn’t a big deal because I’m wearing a plethora of protective pads.

It’s a lot of fun to sit on the bench and cheer on my classmates as they fall over score goals, and to ask for advice from the more experienced players.  I can’t think of a better way to be spending my Wednesday nights, especially when I get to write blog posts fully decked out in my hockey pads.

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